Friday, March 13, 2009

Seasons Of Perspective - When Pain Goes Overwhelming, There Is A Formula Back To Joy

So many souls are choosing to transition during this time and as they move on to more expansive journeys, those they leave are left trying to piece together torn hearts. Being human could be such a beautiful and joyful experience, yet simultaneously so really painful. It is this full spectrum of experience we are capable of feeling that could either be a curse or a blessing, hinging on a simple change of perspective.

While the mind and spirit check more ease in understanding why things happen, the emotions have not the luxury of such logic. Emotions take time to make sense of it all and should be given the honor of their natural unfoldment to do so, free of judgment that binds us to our suffering. Yet judge not judgment, as it is an opportunity for allowance. We have the power to choose our way of experiencing and in taking ownership of our suffering, we are led to joy.

Human "Being" is a state of experience that is ever complex with duality, but was also meant to be a gift of harmonious union between physical and spiritual, which allows us the ability to experience in amazing ways. We as humans are gifted the opportunity of unlimited expansiveness and by design are extremely sophisticated, refined, and highly developed consciousness potentials waiting to blossom. Yet we choose only to live a fraction of that potential, unaware of what lies just on the other side of that wall we either hide behind or straddle. What is the fear? Fear of the promise of joy and what that could mean. This fear is a powerful thing that when chosen, gives away our power to choose. We fear our own humanness, the really thing that is so beautifully powerful, and what it would do if unleashed. Fear creates the separation and hinders our ability to see other perspectives that could instantly disintegrate it. Our hearts would never steer us wrong and reality could transform miraculously if we live in, and choose from, them always. We then come to understand the limitless options of experience and continuity of life beyond duality that lives with us from this state of being.

From our fragmented perspective, we fear death and endings as permanent and final. Like a door brutally slammed on our hearts, just as we were learning to open them. The secret here is that while a closed door might, in the realm of conditioned thought, mean the end to something and a desire to give up and never try again, the opposite is also true and might simply mean that a circle of life has completed a revolution and is about to pick up momentum for the next more expansive spiral of experience. Every pain has both the ability to sour us for life, or to sweeten the journey. The deeper we allow ourselves to explore the realms of watery abyss, the more beautifully we learn to swim with the grace and flow of our cetacean friends, through the turning tides of life.

Every coin has two sides and these two sides are part of the same coin. Yin and Yang are complete opposites, yet are integral to Oneness. One creates the possibility for the other and hence, is not a separate experience. together, they are grace in perfection; a feeling without words that is the expansive totality of consciousness "being" the essence of unconditional love. hence, to go deeper into your pain is to know joy. And in order to truly know the depths of joy, you would need to walk in the shoes of pain, until their experience becomes a perfect fusion. The beauty is that the length of each season is determined solely by the perspective you embrace, until the season integrates into one cycle.

I have recently lost the most beloved being in my life - my soul mate and best friend, Nestor. And yet what I discovered is that in losing her, I actually truly discovered her and she is with me more now than she ever was. We do not have to say goodbye when we come to embrace how expansive we really are and could see beyond one single focus trapped in time. This shift assists us to realize that the timeless love we feel and share is perpetuated in the life force energy that runs through every experience we have, ever encounter, and in everything tangible and intangible. When we see through different eyes, everything changes.

Nestor gifted me with so much in her physical life and continues to do so from the etheric realms. Yet ironically, the greatest gift she gave me was in the most traumatic experience of her transition. Through that moment, I came to know the totality of what both extreme spectrums of emotions felt like, simultaneously, which was the most awe-inspiring, expansive, soul-wrenching, and hauntingly beautiful feeling I have ever known. It was an instance of total surrender and vulnerability and like experiencing all stages of birth and death at the same time; coming to know the perfection and beauty of eternal creation and love. Like that moment a butterfly emerges from the cocoon, discovering its chrysalis form has taken flight. It does not mourn the loss of its caterpillar self, but embraces the joy of this new and expansive creation it has become. Not a death; merely a transformation. A simple change of perspective.

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